coleytangerina:

I see this as another reminder of the power & responsibility the media holds in their reporting of sexual violence.

Talking about rape in a public forum has the ability to affect people both positively and negatively. It can be triggering, healing, spur people into action and encourage them to…

bialogue-group:

comingoutjournal:

Step 1: Blame yourself.

Step 2: Realize gay marriage is inevitable. Statistics show people’s views are rapidly changing on the issue.

Step 3: Imagine how stupid you’ll look in 40 years.

Step 4: Listen to Louis CK.

Step 5: Let go of the idea that same-sex marriage is ruining the sanctity of marriage argument.

Step 6: Take a closer look at the Bible.

Step 7: Read their story and watch their video. Try not to cry.

Ed Watson was 78-years-old with Alzheimers. He was worried that by the time the court finally ruled on Prop 8, he wouldn’t be able to recognize Derence, his partner of over 40 years.

Unfortunately Ed passed away in December. He was never able to marry Derrence.

Click here for the video.

Step 8: Take a look at the people in your own life. How many couples do you know that have stayed together as long as these couples?

Maureen and Cindy have been together for 37 years. They live in New Jersey with their 2 children. They cannot get married.

Kathy Glass and Carmah Lawler have been together for over 30 years and are from Colorado. “Kathy has a way of being able to laugh at almost anything even though at our age there aren’t that many things to laugh about,” says Carmah.

Lee & Bert have been together for over 25 years. They live in Illinois. Recently, Bert had a heart attack and Lee and wasn’t allowed in the emergency room because they weren’t married. Lee had to tell the nurse his marital status was single even though he had been with his partner for 25 years.

Step 9: Imagine their wedding.

Step 10: Look how happy these people are.

Come on, seriously.

Step 11: Ask yourself if you could say no to these kids?

Step 12: Ask yourself if you could say no to Neil Patrick Harris?

Step 13: Look at the consequences.

Step 14: Imagine the alternatives.

oh this is 2 cute!

(Source: BuzzFeed)

bialogue-group:

mayra-quijotesca:

bisexual-community:

DEAR LADY A: The people I know who claim they’re bi are attention-seeking and creepy. I honestly think, of the “bisexuals” I know, the guys are just gays who can’t emotionally handle being gay, and the women are trying to keep potential boyfriends interested with the promise of threesomes. Are actual bisexuals even real? If so, where are they hiding?

~~ Real Homo, Skeptical About The B in LGBT

DEAR DOUBTING HOMO: I’m not hiding and I’m bisexual, so your statement is really more about your own mistrust, isn’t it? It is the worst kind of queer self-sabotage to imply that a sexuality simply cannot be, because you can’t personally imagine it. It’s also ironic. Normally, I have a special contempt for assholes who attempt to inform me that my bisexuality is an urban myth promoted by terrified queens or an affectation I employ to impress my boyfriends. But I will try to exercise patience with you. I will even try to see it from your perspective for a moment.

To pretend like some haven’t used bisexuality as a “gateway drug” to gay or a boy-bewitching sexual tactic, would be disingenuous. Yes, there are folks who, for reasons including self-delusion, hipster trend-grubbing, or maybe just an attempt to earn better money at the stripper pole, might be bisexual pretenders. There are also straight pretenders and gay pretenders, but that doesn’t make you any less gay, does it, sir? And those gay pretenders, by the way, are sometimes boys and girls who love both boys and girls, but felt so unfairly judged by members of their own LGBT community that they actually went back into the bi closet by “picking a side.”

But for the most part, people who call themselves bi, flexible, curious or any other similar designation, are telling you the truth. You know how I know? Because it’s hard to be bi. Society immediately thinks the boys are lying and the girls are sluts, they’re queer but they’re not, they’re straight but they’re not, and they are generally just assigned the convenient homo or hetero sexuality that happens to coincide with their most current partner. They’re also some of the least supported queers in terms of organized help and education … And that’s not fun. So they must have a damned good reason (like the fact that they’ve realized they don’t give a fuck what you or society thinks they ought to be) for standing up and saying who they really are. Just like you had a damned good reason for telling the world who you really are, sir.

So, in answer to your question: Yes, bisexuals are real, and yes, they’re sometimes hiding in your ranks, and could possibly be one of your closest friends or lovers. Being fearful of something you don’t understand and can’t control is scary, isn’t it? On the bright side, now you know how homophobes feel.

I’m bi. No lie. Get used to it.

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Lady A is a headmistress with an emphasis on head. She may even spank you. But only if you like that kind of thing. She can be found in the Chicago Phoenix, on Facebook, Twitter as well as all the best places to see and be seen (and sometimes even do), in Chicago.

PERFECT. 

Fun Fact: when I was a freshman at my first meeting of the campus GSA, the co-presidents pulled this shit after the meeting—talking all sorts of awful shit about bisexuals they knew. At the time, I identified as a 3 on the Kinsey scale, and sat there hugging my knees and looking increasingly flustered until they asked what was up and I blurted out, “Wait, so you think that about all bisexuals? Is it not okay for me to be here?!”

Stopped them cold and they immediately started backpedaling, but I made nearly every meeting from then on and took an officer position as soon as possible to ensure that no one would ever have to face such a blatant rejection from leaders of a ‘safe zone’ as long as I could help it.

Before you go thinking I did well, though, their words DID stick with me to the point that, even though I am still bisexual (though I’m more like a Kinsey 5 now), I identify as lesbian. So I guess it could be argued that I leapt into another ‘closet’, if you can call ID’ing as homosexual closeting.

FYI: Pretending to be Lesbian (or Gay as the case may be) to avoid the stigma of biphobia especially within the established Lesbian/Gay Community is called hiding in the 2nd Closet.

While in no possible way as widespread or pervasive as all LGBTQ+ people who find themselves in perilous situations and use the closet of faked Cis Heteronormativity to keep themselves physically and mentally safe, very sadly the 2nd Closet is far more widespread than most monosexual people realize. For example, witness the terribly sad recent situation with the American actress Cynthia Nixon who caused such a hysterical mess in the papers wildly babbling complete nonsense jut to try not to admit what everyone already privately knew, that she was bisexual not lesbian as she had been pretending in the gay media.

but PS not to cause you any distress . . . however, haven’t you just pretty publicly “outed” yourself to all of your friends and the entire Internet in general?